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Tuesday, August 31, 2010

What Lengths are you Willing to Go to to Change?

Oprah Winfrey wrote:

“Reaching your potential as a human being is more than an ideal. It’s the ultimate goal. The wonders we’re capable of have nothing to do with the measurement of mankind, the list of what’s in and what’s out, who’s hot and who’s not. I’m talking about the real deal: Whose life did you touch? Who did you love, and who loved you back? This I know for sure is what matters. For me it’s the only goal worth aiming for: a transformation of consciousness that allows me to know that I am no better or worse than any other being. That I simply am.”


Jim Bouchard in his book “Think Like a Black Belt” talks about:

Setting large, clear goals. Plenty of people with goals set out with the best intentions only to crash and burn or just fade away.

Some real secrets to accomplishing your goals:

* Your biggest goals should reflect your passion.
* Be sure you’ve got the material, emotional and spiritual resources you need to sustain your efforts. If not, adjust your immediate goals to fit your current resources.
* Divide your big goal into a series of progressive, attainable steps.
* Get tough enough so you won’t let inevitable set-backs and failures defeat you. This is “discipline.”
* Commit yourself to continual self-perfection.
* Begin…


From the book “The Art of Racing in the Rain” by Garth Stein:

“Such a simple concept, yet so true: that which we manifest is before us; we are the creators of our own destiny. Be it through intention or ignorance, our successes and failure have been brought on by none other than ourselves.”



What Lengths are you Willing to Go to to Change? If something is standing in your way of making your dream come true... say a belief, or an experience that's a pattern that sabotages your goals being met - who you gonna call? Be open to others who can assist you along the path - the idea is to rearrange your insides so your outside matches the idea and vision you hold of your dream.


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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

GOAL SETTING: Courage is Resistance to Fear

Goal Setting

Coach John Wooden said: “Success is never final – failure is never fatal. It’s courage that counts.”

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” Mark Twain

It takes courage to pursue one’s dream. It takes courage to desire a huge dream into the space where currently there is none. Courage is believing in oneself and one’s passions so strongly that we face our desires head-on with tenacity. We forge ahead, one step at a time.

"The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions." -Alfred Lord Tennyson

We must master our passions – it’s why we’re here. We were given our passions for particular reasons – each of us are uniquely unique….with a different set of talents and gifts and we’re meant to utilize them in the world. The dictionary describes PASSION as 1. any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, 2. strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor. 3. a strong or extravagant fondness, enthusiasm, or desire for anything: a passion for music. 4. the state of being acted upon or affected by something external, esp. something alien to one's nature or one's customary behavior (contrasted with action).


"Never does a man portray his character more vividly than his proclaiming the character of another." - Winston Churchill, 1874-1965, Former British Prime Minister

If you want to know what’s holding you back in your life, listen to what you say about others. What words specifically do you use when complaining about someone in your life? What sets you off about others? Well darling, mirror, mirror, on the wall…. We are virtual mirrors of each other and whatever we see in others is what exists in ourselves. Your friend who is so busy talking about herself that she hardly listens to you? Where in your life are you so busy talking about yourself and your life that you do the same to others? This is an exercise in extreme growth - if you’re brave enough to look closely and make changes! Everything you love in another is what is also special and wonderful about you. The things you react to in others is behavior within you that has not yet been addressed and cleaned up. Start there and when you get through each aberrant behavior to the other side of no longer needing to behave that way, you will then have tons of free attention and will to pursue your dreams. Clean out your emotional closet of anything that doesn’t work for you. And bless others in your life for showing you all your most undesirable and best traits.

Jim Bouchard in his book “Think Like a Black Belt” wrote:

“It took me a very long time to believe I could be a Black Belt. I cannot tell you that when I earned my yellow belt that the rest of the trip was smooth sailing; not for me. I almost quit several times. I didn’t have the vision of Black Belt since it wasn’t my initial motivation. I did think it would be cool to someday be a Black Belt; I just didn’t really believe I had what it takes.”


Once upon a time I was overweight. Most of my life I was overweight in my head but not in real life, however I was young and didn’t posses the metaphysical wisdom I do today. When I was young and in a normal body I had no idea. And I thought myself into becoming fat. I thought I was fat so much that by my last year of high school I was quite overweight. By my 1st year of college I was obese. I was obese through college and my early 20’s. Then in my 20’s and early 30’s I spent those years going on a diet, losing weight and after looking good for a day I started to regain the weight immediately. It was a crushing reality to do over and over and over again. Then one day I discovered a belief about myself. This belief went all the way to the core of my being and had been lodged inside of me my whole life causing me to sabotage myself. The belief I discovered is that I had decided, at some point in my life, that I was broken. When I realized I felt this way about myself, I cried the tears of someone who has perceived herself as broken for far too long. It was a pain I had blocked and never experienced. After a great cry, I decided I will not live like this again and I was worth far much more. I did a visual meditation and saw myself implant a new and wonderful belief about myself instead. This new belief made me feel great. It made me look out at my reality with hope, power and joy. I decided I’d never hurt myself again. And this time it didn’t come from the old “I swear this time I’ll lose the weight for good “ mentality. This time it was from a place of healing and self love. And I did. I re-entered my life and changed. Over 6 months I lost 30 pounds. Today I am still at a normal weight. Today my food is great and healthy and yummy. Today even with an imperfect body I am happy with who and what I am and how I look. Yes even in bathing suit! Which for someone who was overweight for a very long time – it made changes in the shape of my body! My exercise has changed. Today I don’t struggle with food, weight, exercise, I don’t fight. I look forward to it all. Today I can say I am in a normal body at a normal weight. It took finding that old hurtful belief about myself, feeling it, exorcising it, and then replacing it with a new belief its complete opposite that sits in me today like radiant love. This is all so much a part of my life I hardly think of it. And this is very good, because today I have free attention for my life and my dreams.

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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Deb Dachinger: Inspire Motivate "Dare to Dream": Today I Say "Fantastic" to Anything that Comes My ...

Deb Dachinger: Inspire Motivate "Dare to Dream": Today I Say "Fantastic" to Anything that Comes My ...: "Letting Go and Responding to What Happens Knowing it’s “Fantastic!” I remember years ago being at a gathering where someone got up to tel..."

Today I Say "Fantastic" to Anything that Comes My Way

Letting Go and Responding to What Happens Knowing it’s “Fantastic!”

I remember years ago being at a gathering where someone got up to tell a story. He had decided that no matter what happened to him – no matter what, his response would be “Fantastic!” And then he’d look for the great reason why things turned out the way they did. He and his wife went on a vacation and checking in to their hotel was told the hotel was over booked and although they’d had a reservation, the hotel could not accommodate the couple. The man turned around and said “fantastic!” The hotel, feeling terrible, recommended another hotel in the city and made arrangements for the couple to go there instead. The couple arrived at the other hotel to find out it was a much more beautiful hotel than the original hotel and at the same price. Fantastic! When the husband checked in someone called his name and it turned out an acquaintance he’d fallen out of touch with and had liked very much was there - they got back in touch. Fantastic. And so his story went. I heard this true story 17 years ago, and it left a lasting impression all these years. Imagine being that let go. Release, relax, let go, let flow. Move with life not against it.

Because resistance to things creates…what? Friction? Resistance creates sabotage. Because by its nature resistance is opposition, obstinacy, and defiance. In making out dreams come true in living the life of our dreams we don’t want opposition we want to invite in the good and the promotions and the wealth and the happiness. We don’t want to defy our reality we want to welcome it as though it’s exactly as it should be. So what if I didn’t resist anything? What if no matter what happened, no matter what I responded (to the core of my being!) with the attitude of “Fantastic!”

Last week I had several interviews back-to-back booked for my radio show. Everything and everyone was prepared. I was about to drive to the radio station when I received a call that there was smoke in the studio and the equipment had been damaged so much that none of the DJs could come in to do their show. I responded (internally of course with :) “Fantastic!” And I meant it. I knew something better was coming my way. I called each guest to cancel and reschedule. One guest said she had her own special 800 number where we could do our interview and create an MP3 recording for that week’s radio show. “Fantastic!” We had a wonderful telephone interview which did indeed run that week on the radio and she was able to promote her upcoming workshops in time. Much later the radio station called me to say they’d replaced all the equipment –and the smoke turned out to be a blessing because they’d upgraded and we now had a better system in place - the studio was had even better boards and equipment than before. “Fantastic!”
My boyfriend was agitated this morning because our street was shut down and he could not get to work until they reopened it. The road was closed because President Obama is in town and every time he comes to Los Angeles he stays at a nearby hotel. We don’t get notice about it ~ they just shut down road access for hours and there’s nothing we can do about it. He needed to get to work so it’s understandable that he was anxious. I told him to breathe and relax. Go with the flow. “Fantastic!” What if in the scheme of things – because he was held back in this way, he missed a car accident that would’ve happened otherwise. Or something else of bad consequence was avoided that he might never know about. Truth is once he breathed, the road opened, and although there still was traffic he made it to work.

We never know why things turn out like they do. But we do have a choice. We can decide that no matter what happens it is the perfect scenario for us. We can decide that everything and everyone that happens to us is “Fantastic,” and really believe it to be so. Then we experience everything from a relaxed, positive place. Then we’re open to what’s wonderful about what’s occurring.

There’s no resistance, no pre-determined outcomes. Just being in the moment, knowing that all, right now, is truly “Fantastic!”


From Michael Bernard Beckwith’s book “Spiritual Liberation”

“Today I consciously turn the key to the treasure house of my inner being. I attune myself to my true nature. Any agreements I have made in the past with mediocrity, any excuses I have used to postpone fully expressing my essential self are now broken. I confidently step into a larger dimension of myself. When I ask the Spirit within, “what is my highest purpose?” I hear its answer in language my heart can understand and respond to. I take action on the intuitive guidance I receive and am faithful to it. I declare my willingness, my receptivity, and my enthusiasm. This statement of truth breaks through any seeming obstruction, every stubborn attempt to cover my creativity by remaining small. Clarity, confidence and commitment go before me.

“Creativity freely flows through me as an expression of my talents, gifts, and skills. With the realization that everything is energy, I see its glow everywhere I look, manifesting in all that I see. I know this to be the life force within all existence. Just as life holds back nothing from me, I hold back nothing from life. I am so grateful.”
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William Whitecloud wrote:

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THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING TO DO, BUT ALWAYS ACTION TO TAKE.
Action is about taking direct steps, based on the obvious, toward creating what you want.

"EVERYONE HAS A HEART
Having a heart means that you do have dreams, that there are things you love, things that are deeply important to you.

"YOUR FOCUS CREATES YOUR REALITY.
Your experience in life is determined by what you put your attention on. If you focus on end results, you inevitably attract what you want."

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Are You Living a Life You Love?

Family
Friends
Love
Sex
Weight
Travel
Connections
Work-Career
Spirituality

How are the above in your reality? How authentic is your life? Are you living a life that you love and look forward to experiencing each day?

The only change you ever need to make is in realigning yourself with why you’re here. The gifts and talents you've been given in exactly the way you inhabit them make them uniquely you with unique gifts to offer. Realign with your purpose and live an authentic life. You are here to express that and that alone. And only you -- can express you!

In Michael Bernard Beckwith's book "Spiritual Liberation," he writes:

"Ground yourself in the intention to be radically alive. I like the words of Dr. Howard Thurman: "Don’t worry about what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." That means that, as long as you are on the planet, you are here to deliver your gifts, your talents, and your skills with confidence and inner authority, withholding nothing. This is when you are living full out, moving in the reality of love, affluence and artistry of being. Your radical aliveness not only affects your individual life but life on the planet as we know it."

To transform your life into one you adore be sure its chock full of people, situations, work and things that you love. Life is short. Be on the path that says “I'm here and this is what I have to offer.” Be of service to others. Be kind. Be willing to show up in your own life in a big way.

M.B. Beckwith writes:
"The spirit of the living God is knocking at the door of your heart, reminding you that you are an exquisite, precious, and powerful being. Shine! Sing! Be bold enough to articulate what you are sensing, feeling, and knowing. Now is the time for you to partner with that immense power. Allow the tidal wave of the divine inspiration to wash over you and express in, through, and as you. Consciously and confidently enter the scared process of co-creation, because That which expresses as you does not happen through anyone else in quite the same way. Become a master of your own divine, radiant creative expression.
"AFFIRMATION: Right here and right now, I call forth and activate the evolutionary impulse of my inner being. With absolute trust, I surrender to where the Spirit leads me and experience the peace which surpasseth all understanding."

What's great about your life today? What's unique and wonderful about the gifts you came into this life with?

Focus, Focus, Focus! And then Relax....

Do you ever have the feeling that you're missing something? For instance, you're sitting on the sofa relaxing and then a panic arises that you should be out doing something, getting something accomplished, as though life is passing you by and you'd better jump on the boat and row? Yes indeed I feel that occasionally.

I'm learning to talk about those moments, out loud now, to assist the moment in passing me by, rather than succumbing to the panic. I have strong urges to accomplish things. I have many tasks I undertake on a daily basis. Sometimes I feel like I'm putting out various fires. I deal with one thing when another arises and I deal with that when another attention-grabber arises. And it creates a feeling of anxiety and a complete lack of focus. I experience this when I move into my day willy-nilly, no plan at all ~ just my octopus paws extended out ready to try to manage whatever comes my way... starting one thing, and in the middle suddenly focusing on the next thing (without finishing the first) when a third item nabs my attention (without completing #1 or #2). What fun! Couple that with multiple social and professional media sites -- ad infinitum. Without a plan I'm an anxious, unproductive octopus.

I recognize that the way to combat that is to have a plan. Mea culpa. An idea of what to focus on...a list (on paper is best) with bullet point references of what I want to handle and in what order. When I do that I stick with the plan and have a very good feeling inside during and after. I also go through my to-do's in a relaxed manner since there's a sense of order and importance about it. Also on the list must go - time to unwind, and it's okay to do so! And then allow the down time to happen.

I know all the sayings about human "doing" instead of human "being" and actually I've gotten much better at this. Still at times, it's trying. So to work around my periodic inclination to leap off the coach and turn into the whirling dervish of doing more, I say out loud exactly what I'm feeling. Once I've admitted vocally the emptiness that seems to be beneath the urge to surge, it seems to dissipate, just like that. I can breathe and relax into the moment that I relish and deserve.

Now since being a fireman is not my calling in this life, I am mindful to stop making my days about putting out fires around me -- instead I create my day. I decide how I want it to look and feel. I set an intention for the day and for each day’s segment. I write down (on 1 sheet of paper!) what I'd like to take care of. And off I go to wonderful results.

I do my best during the day and let it go at night. A day intention and a night intention and many more good intentions in-between. Being real and authentic amidst my moments sets my 24 hours for a swimmingly good experience!

Just my five cents of sense!



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Monday, August 9, 2010

Completely Letting Go and Trusting Life to Deliver

Assuming you already know that in order to make a dream (or goal) come true - you need to know what that dream looks like or feels like, and next take action towards making it come true, I am going to address the tough part, which is the Letting Go Journey.  The willingness to lift my eyes from their present point of focus.

If you're like me and you are a go-getter when it comes to making your dream become your reality, maybe you also experience a phenomena I do at times - something like a rabid dog who gets the dream in their teeth and won't let it go? Shaking it, growling, clamping down on the dream because it must look a certain way and the outcome must come at a certain time and the journey means nothing - it's all about the end-result of that dream come true?  Exhausting, right?

Or have you decided that whatever your dream is you will take actions steps, and then let go, take more action steps and then let go?

Letting go is key since our energy can literally also push our dream away. Depending on whether we covet the dream clutching it close to us, or show up to do whatever is necessary and then release it. Releasing it is a gift we give ourselves; releasing the dream invites the Goodness of the Universe to co-create alongside us. We show up by taking action steps and in our releasing the dream, the Universe and our unseen helpers then take that dream and  apply magic to it to help us make that dream come true. The Universe, our Higher Self, and our unseen helpers are all aware of the gifts and talents we've been given this life and why, they want to conspire to help us make those dreams come true so we can do what we were equipped to do in this life. However after we've done all we can do, we need next to get out of the way.
 
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In his book: "Spiritual Liberation" Michael Bernard Beckwith writes:
"Are you ready to unleash your inner Don Quixote to "reach the unreachable star" and "live the impossible dream?"  As you allow such a possibility to take root in your consciousness, your agreements with mediocrity will begin to dissolve and you will enter the evolutionary process of becoming creatively maladjusted.

"And so it is with a full heart that I say thank you.  Thank you Life, thank you pure Spirit for your unconditional love, compassion, and tenderness that is lavished upon me.

"The world sings back to me now. The world reflects back to me now, "Oh, there you are.  I've been looking for you. I've been wanting to express through you, you genius you. I've been waiting for you to wake up, you genius.  You are my beloved in whom I am well pleased.  I get to express through you."

So it's no accident that each of us has the gifts and talents we do in exactly the way we do. That we look how we do, act how we do, think and feel how we do. It's perfect. We're Divinely inspired in order for us to put forth why we're here. So do take action steps - it's the only way to get ahead and then -- release the reigns and turn it over. Surrender your dream and goal to the Power that is waiting to express through you and as you. Let go to the Universe that believes in your greatness and the scared song that you've been put here to sing.

- Debbi Dachinger
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