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Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Tactics Show You Can Turn This Around: Dealing With Perceived Failure or Disappointment
From time to time many of us feel as though we have failed at something. Some of us may feel disappointed at the outcome of a situation that may not have ended to our liking. The question is: how do you handle the feelings of failure or disappointment?
The word failure comes from the 1100’s, Middle English, meaning to disappoint, to deceive.
In reality nothing ever really fails, it is only our reaction to a standard we have set, a measure that a situation or a somebody should, in our estimation, have a particular outcome. Although we may experience something as having failed, truthfully WE can never be a failure. Thinking we’re a failure is taking a moment and creating a belief about ourselves and attaching the failure to an idea of who we are, our life or existence. And it simply is not true. If actually there has been a breakdown in your life and a failed situation, the way to handle it is to learn from the experience, fix it or make an amends and then go on with your life knowing that you now know better and will do better. When you beat yourself up you stay stuck. When you know better you do better.
Movement is energy and energy needs to move so forgive yourself and others, right what has happened, learn your lesson with love and grace and take the next right step in your life.
If you’re feeling failed or disappointed, feel into it and ask yourself – is this perception of myself mine or does this belong to someone else? If it is someone else’s idea of you then return it to sender with love attached. If it belongs to you then where does that belief comes from? And honestly is it serving you or swerving your life off-course? What did you do that you can choose to not do again? Prove to yourself that you do better, accept yourself and allow yourself to move forward with your life in a direction that matters to you.
Dance with life; allow the journey with its ebbs and flows, its successes and failures. How we perceive all of these events is in our minds. We choose the thoughts we think. Accept Choose Take Action
Trust life and the most extraordinary things will happen. Trust yourself and build a rapport with yourself to know to do and be the best you you can be. As you develop an intimate relationship with yourself you will learn you can depend on yourself, and after all it is YOU you’ll be traveling this entire life with, not to mention the next life and the next! Be in your day the way you want to live your life. Focus your thoughts in a positive direction. Draw to yourself exactly what you need.
Just as important is to remember to let life take over to fix things. We are not alone. We are much beloved by unseen friends. We must do what we can and then let go to allow the healing to begin.
Here’s one example from my personal life, and how I could have perceived and received this as disappointment or as just another event. I have had a producer interested in me for years. This producer is attached to a very well known actor who funds big projects. I’ve had coffee with the producer and his partner several times. Each time we got together, the producer talks about how he loves my show and what I’m doing. He sees me working with him and shifting what I’m doing into bigger venues doing bigger things. In our meetings there were promises made and interest expressed and then after our meeting – nothing. Disappointing? Yes. My secret is I do not wait and wonder if something will come through, because time marches on and so must I. Therefore I kept and continue to put myself out there in big ways which continues to reap results. The producer pursued working with me through discussions and then stopped the planning and for 2 years now I have NOT heard from him. Yesterday, out of the blue, I heard this producer’s name mentioned regarding a project by a colleague, and suddenly one hour later, I received a call from the producer – after two years! In the call he shared that he and his partner want to get together with me for coffee to talk (again). They have new plans; they’re in a new place, and with new ideas. I will show up for the opportunity. I will remain open and hear what is new in their space and what their renewed interest is in working with me, and I’ll see how it feels. I will not put stock into what may or may not happen. If working with them works out: terrific. If it doesn’t: terrific. I believe if this connection does not come to fruition in my life then it isn’t meant to be and there’s something much better, much juicier in store for me instead.
Disappointment is what happens when I have an expectation. I go into this and most things with no expectation. With all the things I wheel and deal and all the calls and interest I get from so many different factions it is like pasta. Every so often something sticks. I do my best work and be my best self and show up. What is meant to be in my life will be. This creates a feeling of success and of looking up and forward at all times.
“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.” -- Newell D. Hillis
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Debbi Dachinger’s “Dare to Dream” radio show is a syndicated, multi-award winning program. It’s been featured in online news sources around the world. Author of the three-time bestselling book “Dare to Dream: This Life Counts,“ Debbi is often heard as an interview guest on other radio and TV shows; in addition, Debbi is an inspirational keynote speaker and a spokeswoman on panels. “Dare to Dream” radio enlightens and entertains listeners in an exciting paradigm that intertwines metaphysics with a talk show format. It’s a show that’s needed as people are moving towards new ways of living and doing business and desiring tools to make their passions, goals and dreams come true.
“Dare to Dream” is very popular with a large listener following (2.7 million listeners per episode). Hear “Dare to Dream” radio live worldwide or on by podcast: http://www.deborahdachinger.com (and on iTunes).
Debbi is passionate in sharing with the world the thriving guests she interviews, who have succeeded in achieving noteworthy goals; the result is inspirational on-air conversation. Debbi is a top-notch interviewer and has always been in talent/entertainment. She was a U.S.C. Performing arts graduate who acted and sang throughout Europe and the United States. She has received acting nominations and awards, has been a successful motivational speaker, worked as a professional voice over artist, has a YouTube channel: www.YouTube.com/debontheradio, is an expert columnist, writes a blog: http://debontheradio.blogspot.com, is a member of AFTRA and SAG unions, the Evolutionary Business Council, and American Women in Media. Debbi is considered the expert in Goal Achievement, and also How To Be a Great Radio Host and How to Be The Best Radio Interview Guest.
The word failure comes from the 1100’s, Middle English, meaning to disappoint, to deceive.
In reality nothing ever really fails, it is only our reaction to a standard we have set, a measure that a situation or a somebody should, in our estimation, have a particular outcome. Although we may experience something as having failed, truthfully WE can never be a failure. Thinking we’re a failure is taking a moment and creating a belief about ourselves and attaching the failure to an idea of who we are, our life or existence. And it simply is not true. If actually there has been a breakdown in your life and a failed situation, the way to handle it is to learn from the experience, fix it or make an amends and then go on with your life knowing that you now know better and will do better. When you beat yourself up you stay stuck. When you know better you do better.
Movement is energy and energy needs to move so forgive yourself and others, right what has happened, learn your lesson with love and grace and take the next right step in your life.
If you’re feeling failed or disappointed, feel into it and ask yourself – is this perception of myself mine or does this belong to someone else? If it is someone else’s idea of you then return it to sender with love attached. If it belongs to you then where does that belief comes from? And honestly is it serving you or swerving your life off-course? What did you do that you can choose to not do again? Prove to yourself that you do better, accept yourself and allow yourself to move forward with your life in a direction that matters to you.
Dance with life; allow the journey with its ebbs and flows, its successes and failures. How we perceive all of these events is in our minds. We choose the thoughts we think. Accept Choose Take Action
Trust life and the most extraordinary things will happen. Trust yourself and build a rapport with yourself to know to do and be the best you you can be. As you develop an intimate relationship with yourself you will learn you can depend on yourself, and after all it is YOU you’ll be traveling this entire life with, not to mention the next life and the next! Be in your day the way you want to live your life. Focus your thoughts in a positive direction. Draw to yourself exactly what you need.
Just as important is to remember to let life take over to fix things. We are not alone. We are much beloved by unseen friends. We must do what we can and then let go to allow the healing to begin.
Here’s one example from my personal life, and how I could have perceived and received this as disappointment or as just another event. I have had a producer interested in me for years. This producer is attached to a very well known actor who funds big projects. I’ve had coffee with the producer and his partner several times. Each time we got together, the producer talks about how he loves my show and what I’m doing. He sees me working with him and shifting what I’m doing into bigger venues doing bigger things. In our meetings there were promises made and interest expressed and then after our meeting – nothing. Disappointing? Yes. My secret is I do not wait and wonder if something will come through, because time marches on and so must I. Therefore I kept and continue to put myself out there in big ways which continues to reap results. The producer pursued working with me through discussions and then stopped the planning and for 2 years now I have NOT heard from him. Yesterday, out of the blue, I heard this producer’s name mentioned regarding a project by a colleague, and suddenly one hour later, I received a call from the producer – after two years! In the call he shared that he and his partner want to get together with me for coffee to talk (again). They have new plans; they’re in a new place, and with new ideas. I will show up for the opportunity. I will remain open and hear what is new in their space and what their renewed interest is in working with me, and I’ll see how it feels. I will not put stock into what may or may not happen. If working with them works out: terrific. If it doesn’t: terrific. I believe if this connection does not come to fruition in my life then it isn’t meant to be and there’s something much better, much juicier in store for me instead.
Disappointment is what happens when I have an expectation. I go into this and most things with no expectation. With all the things I wheel and deal and all the calls and interest I get from so many different factions it is like pasta. Every so often something sticks. I do my best work and be my best self and show up. What is meant to be in my life will be. This creates a feeling of success and of looking up and forward at all times.
“Failure is blindness to the strategic element in events; success is readiness for instant action when the opportune moment arrives.” -- Newell D. Hillis
=========================================================
BIO:
Debbi Dachinger’s “Dare to Dream” radio show is a syndicated, multi-award winning program. It’s been featured in online news sources around the world. Author of the three-time bestselling book “Dare to Dream: This Life Counts,“ Debbi is often heard as an interview guest on other radio and TV shows; in addition, Debbi is an inspirational keynote speaker and a spokeswoman on panels. “Dare to Dream” radio enlightens and entertains listeners in an exciting paradigm that intertwines metaphysics with a talk show format. It’s a show that’s needed as people are moving towards new ways of living and doing business and desiring tools to make their passions, goals and dreams come true.
“Dare to Dream” is very popular with a large listener following (2.7 million listeners per episode). Hear “Dare to Dream” radio live worldwide or on by podcast: http://www.deborahdachinger.com (and on iTunes).
Debbi is passionate in sharing with the world the thriving guests she interviews, who have succeeded in achieving noteworthy goals; the result is inspirational on-air conversation. Debbi is a top-notch interviewer and has always been in talent/entertainment. She was a U.S.C. Performing arts graduate who acted and sang throughout Europe and the United States. She has received acting nominations and awards, has been a successful motivational speaker, worked as a professional voice over artist, has a YouTube channel: www.YouTube.com/debontheradio, is an expert columnist, writes a blog: http://debontheradio.blogspot.com, is a member of AFTRA and SAG unions, the Evolutionary Business Council, and American Women in Media. Debbi is considered the expert in Goal Achievement, and also How To Be a Great Radio Host and How to Be The Best Radio Interview Guest.
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