Who Are Your Heros and Sheros? Are you Talking and Walking Your Vision o...

Who Are your Heros and Sheroes? Are you Talking and Walking Your Vision of Your Life?

Who has been a hero in your life? And who has been a sheroe?
My Grandfather is one of my heroes. Although he hasn’t been alive for some years now his presence in my life was, I believe life-saving. First, I was born into a broken family that was chaotic at best, because the one parent running the household was having issues living life herself. However my mom’s parents were completely there for us. Really present and a big part of our lives. My Grandmother was a Sheroe because she was such a nurturing affectionate force. I love the way she dressed and out herself together and she had tons of energy and was often the silent force behind a lot of things, including my Grandfather. Grandpa was my hero because he gave me things a kid really wants – like laughter, he was a real character and funny as heck. He made me feel hear. When I (or other people to be honest, came into the room he made us deal important and he’d ask us lots of questions about ourselves, people left my Grandpa feeling good, heard, listened to and connected. He also loved to be in front of people teaching, sharing and he was in his time ground breaking in new psychological technologies. He did what he loved to do for a living, he was passionate about his musical career, became a who’s who in international musical and quite renowned, and his passion shone. He was a success, and always thinking and creating.



Walt Whitman said:

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because the world needs is people who have come alive.”



There’s an old story about a dog sitting on its owner’s porch, whimpering, moaning, and groaning. All day the dog would whimper and yowl. Finally a person walking by asked the owner what was wrong with the dog.

“He is sitting on a nail,” the owner said.

“And why doesn’t he get up?” asked the passerby.

“It doesn’t hurt badly enough,” the owner responded.



What’s the dream or goal you want to accomplish that you think of fantasize about yearn for and have not gotten up to do. What goal are you making excuses for because you’re sure you don’t have what it takes or sure it won’t work out anyway? Are you sitting on a nail? Does it hurt badly enough yet for you to get up and act on it?

Success is an intentional response to life. In order to achieve it you have to get up and do something. You have to take a first step. Living intentionally means getting out of your comfort zone. In essence, it’s getting up off that nail.

If you want to learn to swim you have to get into the pool. You can read about swimming, watch others swim and even study the art and science of swimming. But at some point, you have to just dive in. Just start. Do it. Get wet. Gain experience and get better.

Expand your comfort zone by facing your fears. Create new opportunities and be willing to take more risks. This is success.

Just be yourself. Success and happiness are different for every person… what works for one person may not work for you. So be sincere and genuine. Don’t imitate others. Bring your personality to each experience.

Success is having some place to go, a vision, a desired future state. Happiness is the journey to get there. In order to realize success, you must get off the nail. Don’t complain. Just start wherever you are. It’s very important to get moving and take the first step. Confront your fears and realize the benefits of doing so are happiness. Expand your comfort zone. And be yourself!

Once you step into your place in the world and do what you came here to do, become who you’re meant to be, and release the illusions you tell yourself are holding you back – you will then be a hero to someone else. You may never know you were a Sheroe or maybe they’ll take the time to tell you, but out there somewhere there are lives you will impact just by being yourself, taking opportunities, and moving forward.

Get off the nail. Doesn’t it hurt enough already? Get off the nail in your life and go be a person who is alive.

Dare to Forgive - To Make Your Dreams & Goals Come True. Who Haven't You...

Dare to Forgive - Who and What Do You Need to Forgive? What Are you Holding On to and Is It Hurting You?

Dare to Forgive

FORGIVENESS       from “I Am the Word,” by Paul Selig

“What does man do when man believes himself not to have been forgiven by himself, or by his Creator, or by his fellow man? What is the process of forgiveness? Is one really required to forgive his enemies in order to ascend in consciousness?

“We will tell you this: It’s actually not possible to ascend in consciousness to the extent that you require your brother to suffer.

“The natural state of man is to be in forgiveness and the recognition of the divinity of his brother. That is actually the true state of who you are and how you are intended to negotiate with one another and behave with one another and experience one another.  It’s as if the dance was always in place and everybody could step on one another’s foot as part of the dance and not be smacked for it. And somewhere along the road, man began to hold grudges and to covet and to fear and consequently began to hold their brothers outside of the light while claiming that they could be in the light.  And isn’t that an impossibility, to stand in the light while you demand your brother stand in the darkness?

“Many of you have great rage at what you believe God to be, because he has taken things from you, or you believe he has, when in fact, of course, God does not take, God gives.  God is the benefactor and creation has its cycles of life and death and transformation. So blaming God never gets you anywhere except angry.  It blocks you from the flow of your own Divine Self. 

{AFFIRM:}“At this moment in time, I am choosing to forgive myself for any and all trespasses I may have incurred against myself and my fellow man and my creator, I am willing to be forgiven for any and all beliefs that I have held that have stopped me from experiencing myself as forgiveness by my Creator, I am not allowing myself to believe that I can be, and that I am, and that I am being forgiven for anything and everything that I may have done, that I may have imagined, that I may have thought, that I may have experienced that I may have chosen or that I may have been gifted with that has given me reason to not forgive myself, my creator and my fellows. I am now free of unforgiveness and I stand firm in my knowing that I am worthy of the Creator and that I am worthy of my fellow man, and I am worthy of the journey I intend to go in.

“We are saying that unforgiveness locks you in and it locks the relationship into a dynamic that actually does not move. The relationship cannot transform when unforgiveness is in play.

“The willingness to forgive this person or this situation is present within me.”

“Let this alignment come to pass.  You have to encourage it only by deciding that you are not going to continue to withhold forgiveness against your fellows, or the situation, or the self or the Creator. That much is in your hands to make so.”

Forgiveness Sets You Free

Forgiveness has changed my life. I have worked mindfully for years to bring up names of people and situations I have held anger, judgment and separation with/from. Originally I had convinced myself that not forgiving meant they couldn’t hurt me again and I’d remind them they couldn’t do that to me. I told myself it was for the better, it was out of self protection and was self–caring.  But the truth is it was sucking the life out of me. I carried each person and each situation around like an energetic garbage bag slung heavily over my shoulder through each step in my life.

All the reasons I held onto grudges worked against me. Grudges did not protect me, they burdened me. They did not separate me away from anyone harmful they kept me married to them through my hatred. It didn’t allow me to completely love myself because I was busy destroying others with my thoughts and emotions.  Bitterness is a bitter pill I swallowed over and over again and then blamed others for making me swallow. Unforgiveness did not end the terrible hurt I was feeling, it kept the hurt cemented and carried the hurt into each day, month and year.

The process I undertook was to view each name and each situation with the intent to be healed. I looked at each situation, one at a time, from several perspectives. I already was familiar with my angry perspective, so this time I looked at what their perspective possibly was, and at several other perspectives I could think of. I also looked through their eyes at me to see what I did to create my part in the issue. And after much remorse, often tears, and sometimes surprise at what I learned about myself and others, I then took responsibility.  I let go, I forgave.  And to be clear, in a situation where I was not responsible (for instance with my parents when I was a child, etc.) I then looked at what I was doing today with my anger and my hurt and how I was mistreating others through the veil of resentment.  As they say ~ unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping someone else will die.

I can tell you that once the forgiveness process was done I felt an amazing freedom. Besides freedom, I gained back attention, self-care, presence, and joy.    No one had control over me any longer. The hurt was gone and new happiness and self-respect in its place.

Forgiveness is a huge subject. It affects our world. Our world has war and strife going on now over misunderstandings, over one people believing that their way of doing things is right, over fear or control over others, and being peeved at the way another country chooses to do things we do not agree with. On a global level we are bombarded by a lack of forgiveness and a lack of understanding and compassion.

"Every decision you make - every decision - is not a decision about what to do. It's a decision about Who You Are. When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes. You begin to see life in a new way. All events, occurrences, and situations turn into opportunities to do what you came here to do."

Neale Donald Walsch
Author of Conversations With God 

Taking that experience to a personal level – what is happening globally with unforgiveness is mirrored by us wherever and whenever we do not forgive ourselves and others. 

Forgiving takes work; however the payoff goes to each of us directly. Forgiveness is a great service to the planet and everyone we interact with.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. “ ~Lewis B. Smedes,

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”  ~Paul Boese

The American Heritage College Dictionary defines "forgive" as, "To renounce anger or resentment against." It goes back to a Greek root word that means "to set free," as in freeing a slave. Ironically, when we forgive, the slave we free is ourselves. We free ourselves from being slaves to our own hatred.

“The best definition of forgiveness I ever heard is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. I love that definition, because it doesn’t mean that you then have to accept the person back into your life. Forgiveness does not mean I now want to have you over for dinner. It doesn’t mean I want to associate with you. It just means I will no longer be tied to the past.”
-Oprah Winfrey

Which means you can mourn until you’re dry, and then you can choose to move on.

Give yourself the best gift this season, the gift of a clean slate, of freedom, or releasing yourself, everyone and everything from the bondage of a grudge. Forgive, let go, move on. It will allow you to be here now, and being here now is truly a dream come true.

Create Your Miraculous Life

Create Your Miraculous Life

You can find the sacred in the most ordinary of things.   – Oprah Winfrey

DICTIONARY:  mir·a·cle

1.  An extraordinary event in the physical world that surpasses all known human or natural powers ascribed to a supernatural cause.

2.  An effect or event manifesting or considered as a work of god.

3. A wonder; marvel.

You have had miracles occur in your life - both big and small. Remember them now. Questions:  Did anything improbable happen to bring you together with someone? Did any experience dramatically change your life – a chance meeting, accident, adventure, medical crisis?  Did help ever arrive improbably just when you needed it?  Did any weird-but-true dream occur one night that came true? Did a stranger, song or book ever get your attention and answer an important question?

Your Miraculous Life ~
You can use your own positive, passionate energy to create a new world for yourself if you are willing to look at the miracle within that you already are.  Joseph Campbell said: "You are already That."  Look for miraculous ways to realize your dreams.  If not now, when?
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Turn to meditation or inspirational reading or whatever spiritual source material puts your mind and heart on track

 The Secrets to Living a Miraculous Life

1.  Open up to the infinite possibilities available to you.

2.  Accept full and complete responsibility for everything in your life.

a.     What don’t you want to deal with? And what do you need to take responsibility for? (Suggestion: Deal with it, take responsibility for it – it will open up the energies and the channels in your life in a huge way. Dealing with and taking responsibility for things we need to may be scary however being brave in facing that which we fear and resist will create big benefits for us and everyone around us, it’s worth it, trust me. Or just find out for yourself and thank me later!)

3.  Make yourself a priority in your life.

4.  Be willing to make changes.

5.  Believe in the abundance of the Universe.

What miracle has happened to you today?___________________

~ There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. ~    Albert Einstein

~ I am realistic, I expect miracles. ~   Wayne Dyer

Find your Dream Career

Your Dream Job Is....?

Imagine that your job and your industry disappeared overnight. Imagine that you had to make brand new career choices. If you were starting over again today, with your special combination of talents and skills, what would you choose to do that is different from what you are doing now?

How did Some Well Known People Find their best career?
Elizabeth Gilbert, who wrote: “Eat, Pray, Love,” wrote: “I never had to search for my destiny; I only had to obey it. What am I here for? I’m here to be a writer. No doubt about it.”
Al Franken, U.S. Senator for Minnesota, who used to be a comedy writer and actor said: “By the time I decided to run for Senate, I’d already transformed my career – from being a comedy writer and performer to writing political books and hosting a daily public affairs radio show. So the decision was more a natural transition than a dramatic break from my past. My parents cared deeply about politics and impressed upon us its power to improve people’s lives.”
Joy Behar, Co-host of The View and Host of the Joy Behar Show says: “I was a funny kid, a natural performer. When I was 10 the Fuller Brush salesman would come to sell brooms and mops, and I’d make him hysterical. But I lost my confidence somewhere in the hideous teen years and pursed other things. I ended up becoming a high school English teacher; I was nearly 40 before I realized I was always the funny one at parties. I started doing a little stand up, and things took off. So I believe that people should do what they loved to do when they were 10 – the age before you start caring what other think.”
Andrea Bocelli, Italian singer said: “I graduated from university and practiced law, and I enjoyed it. But I knew my voice was special – even as a child, everybody asked to hear me sing, and I was happy to oblige. That’s how my destiny revealed itself. I came to believe that if you have a gift, you have an obligation to share it with others, it’s as simple as that.”
Gayle Etcheverry, the artist who makes a living selling her art, and runs GodBlessHumanity.com recently sent out an email that I received and she wrote: “For when you do what you love and you love what you do - you are a much happier person.  And when you are a happy person, it rubs off on others.  Kind of a sneaky way to promote peace in the world but it works - happiness is contagious and that’s a very good thing.” ~ 
Find your dream career.

Take a risk -- go where you've never gone and do what you've never done, because both are necessary to have what you've never had and be who you've never been.

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The True Entrepreneur ~ some wisdom

"The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It's as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer."

Nolan Bushnell
Founder of Atari